I hope everyone is enjoying the nice fall weather. It’s my favorite time of the year. I had quite a few letters from my readers about dating someone that doesn’t have too much to say. What can you do when you’re out with someone that isn’t into great conversation and doesn’t have anything to say? Well, You can continue on with the date and see if he or she ‘opens up’ and talks a bit more or you can end the date. This reminds me of a date on went on when I was in my twenties. I met a guy at a singles function. He was shy and didn't say too much. He asked me out to dinner. I met him at the restaurant. This was a date with a man of a ‘few words.’
We met inside the restaurant and were seated quickly. We looked over the menus and ordered our meal. He said, ‘The menu has FINE foods.' The waitress brought our food. While eating he said, ‘You dressed very FINE.’ I told him he dressed nice too. We didn’t have a lot in common and didn’t have any of the same interests. I told him I like to go to the health club and take long walks. I asked if he likes to work out. He said, ‘No, But that’s FINE.’ He continued, ‘The pasta is FINE. The bread is FINE.’ He said, ‘We’ll go skiing next weekend! Though you don’t like skiing, you’ll be FINE.’ I didn’t have a chance to answer. He continued, ‘We’ll go to a movie later. It's a FINE night.’ I finally got a sentence in. I said, ‘I’d rather just go home.’
He asked, 'A date next Friday night is FINE?' I replied, 'That'll be FINE...'
Dear Debbie Sue: ‘I’m dating a man for two weeks that doesn’t have much to say. We met at work, he asked me out. He’s quiet, handsome and I was attracted to him immediately. We hardly speak at work, but thought I’d give it a try. He’s sweet but, I wish he would talk more so I can get to know him better. On the date, I asked if he likes his job, he answered, ‘It’s ok.’ I asked if he likes home cooked dinners. He responded, ‘They’re ok.’ I asked if he likes soft-rock music, He said, 'It's ok.’ I asked if he likes dancing. He said, ‘sometimes ok.’ He has nothing to say but he smiles a lot. Should I continue to date him or look for a man I can have a conversation with?' Kris.
Dear Kris, This guy is handsome, but can’t hold a conversation. Ask him if he’s nervous or shy and see what he says. If after two weeks he’s speaking in one or two word sentences, that might just be his true personality. You can’t make someone be a conversationalist if they’re not. Tell him how you feel. If he doesn’t ‘open up’ more, then move on. There are plenty of men out there that like to converse and get to know you. You’ll be happier dating one of them.
Until next time.. ‘Keep Smiling...’
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