One of my dearest friends has been recently blindsided. Her husband has pronounced their marriage over. No vote was taken, no polls were conducted. He has just decided. There are some extenuating circumstances that lead me and our other friends to think there is something far bigger going on with her husband, but right now, I don't care.
Right now, I am worried for my friend. Right now, I am so incredibly sad for her. Right now, I want to slap her husband until he realize what a fantastic thing is he throwing away.
Because, right now, his beautiful, brilliant, loving wife feels like she's been thrown away. Right now, a remarkable woman feels like she wasn't enough. Right now, my friend is hurting and there is nothing I can do to make it stop.
I can tell her that she is beautiful, brilliant, sexy, smart, funny, a fabulous mother, tremendous writer, and incredible friend and it doesn't amount to a hill of beans. Because the man she built a life with says he doesn't want her anymore. I can tell her that he's insane, that he needs counseling, that it will all work out, and she won't believe me. Because he is throwing their shared life away.
But I still tell her that she is amazing, that I love her, that I won't throw her away. I will send her cards with actual handwriting on them in the mail. I will answer her emails and texts. I will post thinly veiled blog posts. I will cry with her until we can't help but laugh. I will help her find a thoroughly pornographically insulting code name for him. All in the hope that one day soon she realizes that she's done nothing to deserve this.
I will hope they both find their way through this, and will hold out hope that her husband realizes how much he has to lose.